Therapy For Couples
Sometimes couples go through unresolved conflict and betrayal trauma and its damaging relationship, sessions with a seasoned couple’s therapist can help to gain tools to navigate and potentially heal ruptures so couples can decide whether to stay or go.
Therapy For Couples
Sometimes in our relationship we find ourselves having the same repetitive, dead-end conversations that leave us feeling unheard, angry, and alone. Or we’ve just discovered the person with whom we thought we were having a monogamous relationship has been leading a double life.
In either case, we feel scared because our vision of our future now seems like it may not happen. We may find ourselves wondering: Who is this person I thought I knew? Will we ever feel close again? Can trust be repaired?
we need to understand the reasons it keeps happening. The attachments people formed as children with their family members become blueprints for adult relationships. Did you have a parent who was distant, unreliable, or scary? Was there a sibling that took up all the space? If you and/or your partner experienced attachment ruptures during childhood, you may be re-enacting them in your current relationship.
You may struggle with:
• Anxiety as you wait for the next fight or problem.
• Craving closeness or needing space
• Ruminating about the ways your partner has wronged you.
• Feeling invalidated
• “Lawyering up” to defend your position to your partner.
• Ultimatums and threats to divorce
Being stuck on the hamster wheel of conflict can make you feel ashamed, overwhelmed, and worried for your future. While couples therapy can’t guarantee that you can fix your relationship, it can show you how your past is impacting the present and give you strategies to resolve conflict so you and your partner can finally be a team.
You need support so you can repair ruptures and feel close again.
Sessions with an attachment-informed couples’ therapist can give you tools to manage emotions and communicate in a way that invites collaboration, not drama. If you decide to work with me, I will help you and your partner
Benefits
Couples can work on rebuilding emotional and physical intimacy in their relationship, deepening their connection and closeness. Couple therapy can help couples reignite the romantic spark in their relationship, renewing their passion and love for each other. Therapy encourages a better understanding of each partner’s needs, perspectives, and expectations, fostering empathy and mutual respect.
FAQ
What are the key concepts of couple’s therapy?
The therapy process includes ongoing learning to understand the desires, thoughts and feelings of each other while validating and empathizing with each other. Couples are also encouraged to express positive feelings which strengthen trust and support healthier relationships.
What is the main goal of couple’s therapy?
Couples therapy is a proven effective environment to help get a relationship back on track, out of fear patterns to love and-safety. By entering each therapy session with a shared goal of conflict resolution and the treatment of specific issues, both partners can work towards forging a better relationship.
What makes couples therapy successful?
“Marriage counselling is most successful when the couple takes it seriously, and they are cognizant of what they learn and discover in their sessions and take it with them in between sessions.”
How does couples therapy improve communication?
Couples therapy exercises for communication allow partners to learn how to talk and listen to one another. This is just one of the many benefits of couple’s therapy. This positive communication process involves exchanging, in a productive manner, thoughts, ideas, information, and knowledge.
What is the success rate of couples counselling?
Generally, the results vary depending on the therapist, but between 70-90% of couples find couples therapy beneficial. Beyond that, approximately two-thirds report an improvement in their general physical well-being as well. It’s important to note that with more sessions comes more success.